Break ups fucking suck. That’s just a fact of life. No one likes breakups. Even if your ex is a literal crazy person, breaking up still probably feels at the very least bitter sweet.
Recovering from a break up usually seems pretty impossible in the moment. Even if things were sub-par, you miss your ex. You miss the security of being in a relationship. And more importantly, you miss their dog.
If you think about it relationships either fail or you get stay with that person forever. So, it’s probably in your best interest to fail a couple times. But don’t fear my friend. You’ve survived break ups in the past and you will survive them in the future. As Celine Dion once said: Your heart will go on.
Anyhow, here are a couple tips on how to survive your latest break up.
1. Love yo self
When you’re feeling down after a break up it’s important to take care of yourself. It might even be valuable to use a sick day if you’re feeling particularly down. While it’s important to not wallow in pity, it’s okay to have a day for yourself especially the day after.
So call in sick and sleep in. Cook yourself some serious comfort food or order take out from your favorite delivery service. Binge watching is highly recommended. So cozy up with some popcorn and Netflix. Watch something funny if you need to turn your brain off for a little while or watch something sad if you need to emotionally purge.
Do all your favorite things today. Get ice cream. Online shop. Take a bubble bath (and ladies this isn’t just for you. Guys if you haven’t taken a bubble bath since you were a toddler you should really give it a try).
Take care of yourself.
2. Reactivate all the dating profiles!
One of the most important things to do after a break up is start looking ahead. Even if you don’t end up going on any dates, it’s important to reactivate your dating profiles. This way you’ll be able to slowly ease your way back into single dating life. You’ll regain some self-esteem as you gain matches and chat with people online.
The key to this step is to start visualizing yourself with other people. You don’t even need to meet up with them, just imagine. Start imagining your life with a different person and stop comparing them to your ex. Understand what worked about your past relationship and what didn’t work, and apply that when you’re looking for a new partner.
3. Hang with the homies
Spend time with your friends. After a break up you need to rely on your support system. Call up your friends to come over and have a night in and when you’re ready let them take you out on the town. Don’t isolate yourself when you’re upset. Let your friends take care of you, I mean that’s what they’re there for! You’re friends because you build each other up, so let them build you up.
And when the time comes let them be your perfect wingman/woman.
Learn more about how to get over a break up from the video below!